Why are homeschoolers not allowed to have a bad day?

I need to vent here today.  Why is it that a homeschooling parent or SAHM is not allowed to have a bad day?  Maybe I’m alone in this, but there have been many days over the last 7 years where my bad day has only been made worse by people who just don’t get it.

When someone who works outside the home says they’ve had a bad day, no one thinks twice about it.  No one tells them to quit their job.  Many even give them a little break and try to be extra nice to them.  We may even offer to listen while they vent about their rough day.

But if a SAHM or a homeschooling parent says the same thing, people ask why they do it or suggest you send your kid to public school.  Some even go a step farther and wonder aloud how ‘just staying home’ could be all that bad.

I am happy with my choice to be a SAHM and to home school my kiddos.  That does not mean that every day will be wonderful.  Like everyone else, we sometimes have a bad day and just want to vent a little.

My decision to home school

The decision to home school (or choose public or private school) is a deeply personal choice and should not be taken lightly or be a choice made out of guilt.  Every family is different and each should make their own decision based on what is best for their unique needs and desires.  We should all try to respect others’ decisions and not make judgements.

When our daughter, “K”, was getting ready to turn 3 we signed her up for preschool at a local church two days a week.  She loved it and was doing quite well, so the next year she stayed at the same school and attended the Pre-K class.  This was 3 days a week for half day.  Again she loved it, but was more than ready to leave by the time school ended.

Most schools in the area were offering only full day Kindergarten.  That meant 5 days a week, full day.  I really didn’t think she would be ready for that emotionally.  After much research I narrowed our choices down to two options, Public school (who at the last moment decided to offer both full and half day) or a hybrid charter school.  Both offered half day Kindergarten.  However the date for the age cutoff for entering Kindergarten had been changed.  We now had to have K evaluated to be in Kindergarten at all.  In the end, we chose Hoosier Academies hybrid program.

A few reasons for our choice follow.

  • K would often fall asleep on the 7 minute ride home from school.  If she didn’t nap in the car, she exhibited less than angelic behavior at home.
  • Her teachers told me she often asked when school was over during the last hour of class.
  • K does not like to sit and even when she sits, she still wiggles around a lot.  Even at dinner, she sits on the edge of her chair with one leg on the floor.
  • She asks a LOT of questions.  More than her fair share.  I didn’t want her getting in trouble in school for asking too many questions, but I also didn’t want her to learn (by necessity) that she couldn’t ask any question.  I love her curiosity.
  • I wanted to be involved in her learning.  At the time, that just meant having a good understanding of what she was doing during the time she was away from me.  Was she struggling or excelling with an area?  Was she well-behaved?  In what ways could I help her?
  • I missed her while she was gone!  It’s a very selfish reason, but it definitely played into my decision.
  • HA takes care of all record keeping.  Testing, grades, transcripts, etc are all handled by them.  All I do is make sure she gets the lessons completed.

K is now in 2nd grade with HA and we are still happy with our choice.